Loving someone equals to suffering. Being loved equals to happiness. Is it true? Lol. That statement was stated to me few years back which didn’t knock any sense in me at that time. Our young lives, we all dance to a song of heartbreak and hope, all the while wondering if there is someone out there searching for us just as how we are searching for someone to love, someone who makes us complete. Back to the statement, I think loving someone will only be suffering if it's an unrequited one. Haha. And depending on the level of expectations one holds. Being loved not necessarily can make one happy. Being loved by someone that will not make you reciprocate equals to helplessness. It only takes two to be happy.
To make it clear, though I might be in one of the two unfortunate situations, I will still not feel any suffering. Because being able to feel at least makes me alive and human. I still feel cherished no matter what. A very beautiful message I've read somewhere, "Love those in your life without expectations. Accept them as they are and take what they want to give without judgement."
Haha. =D
Saturday, November 20, 2010
Thursday, November 18, 2010
To plan or be planned... lol.
The very famous quote, "If you fail to plan, you plan to fail". I suppose that would apply to our studies, works, and something technical. True enough, if we don't plan our timetable well or allocate proper time for serious works to be done, we are definitely asking for trouble. I'm someone who plans a lot and yet troubles still come running after me. This is because I always plan for the wrong reasons. Haha.
Last Saturday, I was at church camp in Lundu and in one of the sharing sessions, it was brought up that we don't have to do anything or plan anything. We just have to walk the paths planned by God. God has already planned a beautiful journey for each and everyone of us. Haha... at that time, hearing that made me doubt the truth in the statement. It made me wonder how I can walk this life blindly without any visions? Haha. But I think I'm beginning to see the truth in the statement now.
The above statement revealed by Aunty Mei Ling is from the religious point of view. But if we look at the non religious point of view, the message is actually the same. I'm sure most are aware of the book, "The Secret" by Rhonda Byrne. The 'secret' had actually been practised by many great world leaders long long time ago. Adolf Hitler was said to have used this concept as well. Haha. So, what is the 'secret'? In the book, it taught us how to get what we want from life. It's so simple and easy which involves only 3 simple steps.
The 1st step is to choose what we want from life. It is just like the analogy of picking an item from a catalogue or food from a menu. Haha. The 2nd step is to believe that we will receive what we chose in the 1st step. Finally, the 3rd step is receive. You only have to wait and receive what you chose. It is said the universe will works in way and will grant us what we want. We just have to be aligned with the universe.
Sounds easy right? But the catch is most people would already fail in the 2nd step. Once you fail this step, you cannot proceed to the 3rd step and this results in you not being able to achieve what you want from life. I know the believing part is not easy. Haha. It's human nature to doubt and hesitate. It sounds too simple that we asked ourselves, "Is this really going to work? Just by 3 steps and not doing anything, how the hell can our goals be achieved?" But miraciously, cancer patients not receiving any medical treatment actually recovered from their illness just by believing they are healthy and cancer-free. Okay, there are a few important pointers in each step.
The 1st step which is choosing, we only have to choose once. We don't have to keep thinking about it, keep wishing about, keep hoping about it. We only have to choose once and just leave it at there. The 2nd step, believe means BELIEVE. Haha. I don't know any pointer for this as me myself always fail at this step too. The 3rd step is just simple, just wait and it will come to us. Now, I am beginning to see the truth in the statement revealed during the sharing because we all come to this world having our respective goals and desires. Even if we don't reveal them, we've somehow unintentionally planted it out to the universe. Once, we've set our goals, we don't have to keep worrying or thinking or expect anything from them. We just carry on with our lives, do what is right, continue doing the right thing (align ourselves with the universe), the universe somehow will work in ways we can never imagine to grant us with what we want. We don't have to keep pondering when will the day come. Just let go, live life and enjoy the present. That is why Aunty Mei Ling said, "Don't keep planning. God has already planned a beautiful path for you. All you need to do is just walk the path. As simple as that." I guess the message is God knows our little desires and He has ways of granting them. We don't have to keep planning and expecting things to happen. It will happen somehow, just not how we imagined them to be.
Yes, at times, I plan too much. And expects them to happen according to plan. When expectations aren't met, disappointment comes. Haha. But the most risky of all is when we actually plan something that is not meant to be, we somehow neglect something already planned beautifully for us. Anyway, in a nutshell, Live life, enjoy the present. Always hope but do not expect. And may the "secret" helps in achieving what you want from life! =)
Psstt.. keep believing! Haha.
Last Saturday, I was at church camp in Lundu and in one of the sharing sessions, it was brought up that we don't have to do anything or plan anything. We just have to walk the paths planned by God. God has already planned a beautiful journey for each and everyone of us. Haha... at that time, hearing that made me doubt the truth in the statement. It made me wonder how I can walk this life blindly without any visions? Haha. But I think I'm beginning to see the truth in the statement now.
The above statement revealed by Aunty Mei Ling is from the religious point of view. But if we look at the non religious point of view, the message is actually the same. I'm sure most are aware of the book, "The Secret" by Rhonda Byrne. The 'secret' had actually been practised by many great world leaders long long time ago. Adolf Hitler was said to have used this concept as well. Haha. So, what is the 'secret'? In the book, it taught us how to get what we want from life. It's so simple and easy which involves only 3 simple steps.
The 1st step is to choose what we want from life. It is just like the analogy of picking an item from a catalogue or food from a menu. Haha. The 2nd step is to believe that we will receive what we chose in the 1st step. Finally, the 3rd step is receive. You only have to wait and receive what you chose. It is said the universe will works in way and will grant us what we want. We just have to be aligned with the universe.
Sounds easy right? But the catch is most people would already fail in the 2nd step. Once you fail this step, you cannot proceed to the 3rd step and this results in you not being able to achieve what you want from life. I know the believing part is not easy. Haha. It's human nature to doubt and hesitate. It sounds too simple that we asked ourselves, "Is this really going to work? Just by 3 steps and not doing anything, how the hell can our goals be achieved?" But miraciously, cancer patients not receiving any medical treatment actually recovered from their illness just by believing they are healthy and cancer-free. Okay, there are a few important pointers in each step.
The 1st step which is choosing, we only have to choose once. We don't have to keep thinking about it, keep wishing about, keep hoping about it. We only have to choose once and just leave it at there. The 2nd step, believe means BELIEVE. Haha. I don't know any pointer for this as me myself always fail at this step too. The 3rd step is just simple, just wait and it will come to us. Now, I am beginning to see the truth in the statement revealed during the sharing because we all come to this world having our respective goals and desires. Even if we don't reveal them, we've somehow unintentionally planted it out to the universe. Once, we've set our goals, we don't have to keep worrying or thinking or expect anything from them. We just carry on with our lives, do what is right, continue doing the right thing (align ourselves with the universe), the universe somehow will work in ways we can never imagine to grant us with what we want. We don't have to keep pondering when will the day come. Just let go, live life and enjoy the present. That is why Aunty Mei Ling said, "Don't keep planning. God has already planned a beautiful path for you. All you need to do is just walk the path. As simple as that." I guess the message is God knows our little desires and He has ways of granting them. We don't have to keep planning and expecting things to happen. It will happen somehow, just not how we imagined them to be.
Yes, at times, I plan too much. And expects them to happen according to plan. When expectations aren't met, disappointment comes. Haha. But the most risky of all is when we actually plan something that is not meant to be, we somehow neglect something already planned beautifully for us. Anyway, in a nutshell, Live life, enjoy the present. Always hope but do not expect. And may the "secret" helps in achieving what you want from life! =)
Psstt.. keep believing! Haha.
Saturday, November 6, 2010
Must get back on track !
At times like these, I have to admit, I wish I'm at home with my family. I kept hearing people saying "even the most independent individual is homesick". I'm not exactly homesick. I just miss my home. How good it is being in the company of my family, going for dinner every weekend, being able to watch Astro and sleeping on my bed. Lol.
Block 1 made me aware of the pros being here. I'm definitely thankful for all the lovely company I have here. Being far from home is good as well in the sense that we establish a stronger relationship among ourselves. Since most of us are far from home, we somehow grew an affection towards one another, taking care of one another, celebrate events together and a whole lot other amazing things. Being able to experience such moments while in the midst of growing up and discovering ourselves is something very memorable. This is why I really enjoyed block 1. It was like a breath of fresh air to me.
But I'm not saying things are totally the opposite in block 2. It's just that reality really hit me. Given 5 years(hopefully no extensions) here and only 4 weeks of holidays per year, just made me realize I'm going to spend most of my time here without ever seeing my family and spending time with them, and the next thing I know, I would be graduating, working and straying from them already. Haha. I probably think too far. But, I have nothing to complain nor am I in any state of distress. I only just longed to be home, to be able to watch a Saturday night movie, to go for dinners and shopping every weekend, waking up on a Sunday morning in my own room. Those are the things I am yearning for.
Which is why I'm so determined to go through this exam and search through my new block 3 timetable for any free slots to go home on Fridays. Hehe. What's 400 bucks or 500 bucks? No amount of money can even buy such brief moment of eternity of being able to be at home. It's worth it. The Air Asia turbulence, the delay flights, the travel sickness, the packing, the unpacking, the money spent, the time spent... is all worth it.
Block 1 made me aware of the pros being here. I'm definitely thankful for all the lovely company I have here. Being far from home is good as well in the sense that we establish a stronger relationship among ourselves. Since most of us are far from home, we somehow grew an affection towards one another, taking care of one another, celebrate events together and a whole lot other amazing things. Being able to experience such moments while in the midst of growing up and discovering ourselves is something very memorable. This is why I really enjoyed block 1. It was like a breath of fresh air to me.
But I'm not saying things are totally the opposite in block 2. It's just that reality really hit me. Given 5 years(hopefully no extensions) here and only 4 weeks of holidays per year, just made me realize I'm going to spend most of my time here without ever seeing my family and spending time with them, and the next thing I know, I would be graduating, working and straying from them already. Haha. I probably think too far. But, I have nothing to complain nor am I in any state of distress. I only just longed to be home, to be able to watch a Saturday night movie, to go for dinners and shopping every weekend, waking up on a Sunday morning in my own room. Those are the things I am yearning for.
Which is why I'm so determined to go through this exam and search through my new block 3 timetable for any free slots to go home on Fridays. Hehe. What's 400 bucks or 500 bucks? No amount of money can even buy such brief moment of eternity of being able to be at home. It's worth it. The Air Asia turbulence, the delay flights, the travel sickness, the packing, the unpacking, the money spent, the time spent... is all worth it.
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